The Other Side Of Dealing With Cancer In The Family

ribbon-1101997_960_720When a close friend or family member is diagnosed with cancer, many emotions and reactions can crop up. Depending on the severity of the situation, people can feel hopeless, angry, heartbroken, and any other emotion under the sun. In this time, it can be the first thought of friends and relatives to immediately go to see or contact the one afflicted and offer condolences, well wishes, or the like. But it is important to first consider the wishes on the one with the condition.

Many people don’t want news of their condition to be spread around. This is their right and it should be respected. It may be that they don’t want to worry others, or that they want to quietly accept their fate without a lot of grief around them. In any case, it is their right to privacy.

They also may want to have the support of specific friends or family members. If you are not one of them, then don’t be offended, but be respectful. Forcing your presence on someone is quite selfish, as at that point you are really only trying to make yourself feel better, not the patient.

Finally, when you are called upon for help, do it in a manner that you would like to have done to you. Don’t say you will do something and then not come through. Be responsible and helpful and most of all, friendly. If they are becoming weak, there are devices you can get the help them be able to move around or take care of certain tasks better (you can find things like this here:

Cancer is not a guaranteed killer, and many people have survived it. But it is in my belief that survival depends on the outlook and mood of the patient. Do what you can to keep them happy and brighten their day. Even if it means leaving them be to act like nothing’s wrong (that doesn’t mean letting then ignore the condition and not get treatment).